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Don’t Accept Lies When Spouse Cheats and Maryland Divorce Threatens Your Marriage

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Love is blind. We want to believe the best about those we love, and when the truth comes out, it can be ugly. When you discover that your spouse has been cheating on you and lying about it, the pain can be overwhelming. You may be feeling:

  • Hurt that you weren’t enough for your spouse
  • Betrayed by all the lies
  • Angry that your spouse seems to care so little for you

It’s normal to have all sorts of mixed emotions, but be careful what you believe. Whether dealing with excuses from a cheating spouse, here are four lies you need not accept:

  1. “It’s my fault.”
    No matter the mistakes you might have made in your marriage, your spouse is the one who made the choice to cheat—not you. 
  2. “I could have stopped it.”
    Wishing that you had been a better wife or husband in order to somehow keep your spouse from seeking satisfaction elsewhere is just another way of placing the blame on yourself. 
  3. “I’m stupid to be so blind.”
    Yes, love is blind, but that doesn’t make you stupid. Don’t beat yourself up for not seeing the signs that your spouse was unfaithful. No one should expect their spouse to be unfaithful.
  4. “This is the end.”
    Whether or not an affair ends your marriage is entirely up to you and your spouse. Only you can determine whether you are willing and able to forgive and start over. Only your spouse can make the decision to stop the adultery and stay faithful.

If you have concluded that you do want a Maryland divorce, then speak to an experienced Maryland divorce lawyer who can help you through the difficult emotional process. Call Nickelsporn and Lundin at 800-875-9700 for a free consultation.

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Tom 09/05/2013 07:38 AM
It really is a painful thing to know that someone (your spouse) you have trusted so much cheated or has been cheating on you; and to compound it, even lying about it. There is no point blaming yourself. The marriage bed is meant to be undefiled (a fact that both of you should have known before saying 'I do'). It is better never to let that happen because it will be difficult to erase it out of the mind even if you claim to have forgiven him or her.
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