An uneasy tension permeates the room. A quiet conversation becomes a loud discussion and quickly escalates into a yelling match. You and your spouse get louder and louder until one person finally stomps out of the room and slams the door.
How do you feel now? Better? Or worse? Blowing up at your spouse may feel good momentarily, but it’s likely to do more harm than good in the long run.
There’s no way to avoid difficult discussions when you’re in the midst of settling terms for a Maryland divorce, but the more you can do it without getting upset, the better off both of you will be. Heated discussions quickly spin out of control. Diffusing such conversations rather than giving into spite and a vindictive attitude is to your benefit.
When you’re congenial, your spouse is more likely to:
- Calm down too
- Be willing to talk
- Listen to you
- Give you some of what you want
- Be less vindictive
- Agree to a compromise
The result of a calm, friendly conversation is that both spouses are more likely to get more of what each wants and reach a Maryland divorce settlement that benefits all involved, including any children you may have.
The same concept works when you’re discussing terms through a lawyer too. When your spouse wants something, don’t hold onto it out of spite. Take a deep breath, calm down, and be willing to compromise on the details in order to get what’s most important—a congenial divorce where everyone comes out on top.
Leave the details to a skilled Maryland divorce and custody lawyer who can negotiate on your behalf without the emotional trauma. For a free consultation, call Nickelsporn and Lundin today at 800-875-9700.